Jesus launched the Church. It was messy, and led by flawed leaders.
The early church began in a time where the culture was shifting, political and religious leaders didn’t agree, and the fledging churches had their own internal problems. (Sound familiar?)
In those days when the number of disciples was increasing, the Hellenistic Jews among them complained against the Hebraic Jews because their widows were being overlooked in the daily distribution of food. Acts 6:1
- It can be tough listening to complaints about the things people don’t like.
- It can be discouraging when people leave your church for the next new cool church across town.
- It can be frustrating when after years some people still consume more than they contribute.
This is part of life and leadership in the local church, so it’s better for leaders to adjust their perspective in order to lead more effectively.
This doesn’t suggest that you should stop caring or should just go with the flow. It means to do your best to not let these things get to you.
The fact that all churches are imperfect does not justify lack of vision, casual leadership, or sloppy programs. It’s merely a truth that can help us as leaders see that making progress and solving problems is core to our work.
If successfully leading a local church was easy, nearly anyone could do it. There would be no need to develop yourself to lead better.
5 Do’s and Don’ts to lead better in an imperfect church:
1) Do see the church as beautiful in all its flaws.
I appreciate a nicely landscaped yard, and growing up in San Diego I became accustomed to seeing green grass and trees with leaves all year round. That’s not the case in Atlanta. The grass goes dormant, the leaves fall off, and most plants and flowers don’t look vibrant as in the winter.
A friend of mine in the landscaping business reminds me that it’s just as beautiful in the winter as the spring and summer. I’ll admit that it is sometimes difficult for me to see and appreciate. He often says, “Nature isn’t perfect but it’s still beautiful.”
I think the church is similar. It’s not perfect but it’s still beautiful. I see that in the church. People are not perfect. I’m not and you’re not. But the beauty in each person, in each creation, is still there. And we all see what we look for.
That kind of perspective changes how we lead. We become more patient, we see growth as a natural process, and it’s easier to lead with grace.
2) Do view problems as an opportunity for progress.
If you see problems as negative and unnecessary thorns in your side, they will exhaust you, discourage you and deplete the energy you need to focus on solutions.
Most of the great breakthroughs and innovative ideas are a result of problems being viewed not as a problem to solve, but an opportunity to make things better.
If you have a breakdown in a ministry, a staffing issue or struggles with finances, these can all be an opportunity to improve your church.
2 So the Twelve gathered all the disciples together and said, “It would not be right for us to neglect the ministry of the word of God in order to wait on tables. 3 Brothers and sisters, choose seven men from among you who are known to be full of the Spirit and wisdom. We will turn this responsibility over to them 4 and will give our attention to prayer and the ministry of the word.”
Acts 6:2-4
The problem of the distribution of daily food provided an opportunity for more attention to prayer and scripture!
Here’s the difference, merely solving a problem only gets you from sub-par to par. True improvement takes you from sub-par to par, and then beyond to actual progress.
3) Don’t get defensive about the areas where your church isn’t great.
When someone points out something “flawed and imperfect,” whether it’s a ministry, your physical buildings or a mistake you made, don’t make excuses. Don’t attempt to dismiss it, pretend it’s not a real issue, and above all don’t get defensive.
When someone points out a flaw at 12Stone, I often say something like, “I agree, will you help us get better?” That removes the tension and you quickly find out the true disposition of the person you are talking to.
Candidly, flaws and ministries that need improvement motivate me. I get to be part of the team that makes it better. Not just “repair it” but make it better!
4) Do listen to complaints but don’t let them rob you of your joy.
As leaders, we have a responsibility to listen to complaints. Some complaints are legitimate and require our attention. I appreciate those complaints, they’re helpful and sometimes about an issue I didn’t see or know about.
When you know someone is a complainer, set their complaint aside and have the honest conversation about their unhelpful behavior.
In either scenario, the enemy can attempt to steal your joy. Resist the devil and he will flee. Hold on to your joy. Not every day is easy or fun, but you can always have joy in ministry.
5) Don’t leave when things get tough.
Pastors and church staff change churches. That’s normal and healthy. But if you leave because ministry gets tough, you are setting yourself up to want to leave each church you serve before it’s your time to go.
I’m not referring to tough as in an unhealthy environment. That’s different. I’m referring to ministry itself. All churches experience times when some ministries are not as effective as they need to be.
Candidly, these are some of the best seasons because you learn and grow the most.
You many also leave before the breakthrough comes and you miss what God had in mind the whole time.
Beware of the greener grass syndrome. Grow your own green grass! Most of all remember that God is with you!
Thank you Dan for reminding me when I have pitied my low standing and then took action because I wanted to be part of the solution and not the problem.
Joe, you are truly a man of action who demonstrates it through love. Keep being you!! The Kingdom needs you!
I read a book once called Anonymous that changed my perspective on winter seasons and the persecution that can com with.
When we look at a tree in the winter we see bare branches and gray lifeless bark. But the miracle is what lies underneath. As winter grabs hold of our dear tree, our Father is filling her with nutrients from underneath. All with the purpose to prepare for her Spring reveal.
We all have seasons of growth. We all have people in our life who serve to refine us through these seasons. When we look at them through this lens- everything becomes an opportunity.
As always, thank you for the encouragement Dan!
Eve
You are most welcome Eve! Hope all is well in your world!
Great post, Dan! Great churches are still imperfect…and that is where God can do his best work! Have a great 2018!
Thanks Luke! Great comment! His strength is unleashed through our weakness.
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